An Indian businessman highlights the growing pressures young men face in India's arranged marriage market. Vineeth K shared his frustration on X and revealed the unrealistic expectations placed on grooms, especially by the bride's families.
“Salary expectations for grooms during wedding matches are insane,” he wrote.
“Those who earn less than CZK 1,000 a month in IT are not even counted. Parental thinking requires a RESET. How can a 28-year-old earn ₹1-2 lakh, own a car and own a house? Your generation had all this for retirement.”
His post struck a chord, garnering over 100,000 views and triggering a flood of reactions. Many echoed Vineeth's sentiments, pointing out how the high demands were turning the institution of marriage into a transactional ordeal.
One commenter wrote: “Marriage is one of the biggest crises in India. If parents don't take a more sensible approach and guide their children, we will see a generation that will marry at 30-35 and face problems in having children – or staying single at all.”
However, the debate also generated conflicting opinions.
Some users have defended the expectation, saying that in metro cities like Bengaluru, earning ₹1 lakh per month is no longer excessive but necessary. “How can a family survive on less than ₹100,000 in the metro? Monthly cost without child is around ₹60,000. It goes beyond ₹ 1 lakh with a child,” one user reasoned.
The differing views highlight a deeper generational and economic rift. On the one hand, young men are overwhelmed by societal pressures and seemingly unattainable standards of readiness for marriage. On the other side are families adjusting to the rising cost of living in urban India, where traditional practices meet modern financial realities.
